Monday, June 4, 2012

Our Traditions Have Built A Tightly Knit Family


We have bottles of shells all over our home. It's a tradition we started very early in our family life together. As we have traveled we have gathered shells, driftwood and sea glass from beaches along the Pacific and Atlantic shorelines. Every time we look at those jars we are reminded of some of our very favorite family trips and beach days.

One one trip we came to a much neglected beach and found loads of sea glass and shells everywhere. It was clear no one ever visited this beach that was surrounded by shipyards and buildings. Every day we would take the small bag the hotel packed our breakfasts in and walk across the road to the beach and gather shells and sea glass to our hearts content.

Each beach we visit has shells of different types and sizes and I have enjoyed researching the different varieties we have found. Gathering shells is one of our family traditions. As a family we have also spent many happy hours riding bicycles together, since the little one had a seat on the back of dad's bike. Then we transitioned to a trailer bike and now she is riding her own bike all around the park. We hope soon, with a little more experience, she'll be ready to ride around town with us.

Another tradition is family dinners: homemade pizza night, spaghetti night, tacos night. Each of these meals holds a special place in the family's hearts and are requested often. Everyone of these dinners involves cooking with herbs and tomatoes we have grown in our garden -- another family tradition and source of happiness. We also have our family tradition museums, ice cream parlors, and trips around town.

Building traditions as a blended family have helped us create our own family history, to bond together through our activities and our memories, and give us good things to look forward to. There's nothing like having a funny memory to laugh about together or a special day to reflect back on to help a blended family feel tightly knit.

What traditions have you established in your family? How have they strengthened your bond?

Friday, June 1, 2012

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Share Your Talents With Your Stepkids


There are things that are unique to you and that you have interests and talents in that you can share to bless your stepkids lives and build a bridge with them. Maybe there is a sport you are especially good at, or you know how to sew or knit, or paint. Sharing your talents is a great way to build a bridge with your stepkids. Kids love adults who are interested in doing things with them, especially new things. Sometimes building a bridge with a kid is as easy as just spending time with them.

As I have been working on my photography skills, my stepdaughter has taken a lot of interest and she says, "You're a good Sa-tographer." I love that there are still a couple of words she hasn't quite mastered in her constantly expanding vocabulary. She cracks me up.

So a few weeks ago I gave her my oldest digital camera with a clean SD card inside. She was ecstatic. She immediately went to town taking pictures. And later on her dad and I were astounded at the photos she took, when she shared them with us at dinner. She has a talent for framing photos.

We inadvertently uncovered one of her talents. Now she has taken a few hundred photos and is a "sa-tograher" herself. Her camera is one of her greatest joys. And all it took was gifting her an old camera and a 30 second lesson to get her on her way. It gave me yet another chance to show her I care, that I'll take time with her, and that I'll appreciate her talents. What a gift that is to me and to her.

What talents do you have that your step kids would enjoy? If you've been doing this for a while, share your experiences. How has it changed your relationships?

all images by the sweet stepdaughter